Personal and Career Coaching


Why am I not getting a promotion ?

Posted on April 12, 2014 at 6:45 PM Comments comments ()

You may be wondering why all the promotions are passing you by.  

There are a number of things you can do to set yourself up to progress in your career.

1)  Consistently exceed expectations.  

Doing your job well is normal behaviour, that is what you are paid for, but walking the extra mile is extraordinary.  It's what makes your customers happy and wanting more.  It makes you feel that you are useful, that you have a purpose and it creates your reputation for being an overachiever who is always striving to do the best for her clients, team, co-workers, boss and ultimately the company.

2)  Don't wait to get noticed.

Be your own ambassador, make sure everyone knows what you projects you are working on and what you have achieved.  If you can manage to do this gracefully, without boasting, you will build a solid brand.  Careful not to overstep it and get a reputation for being a show-off.

3)  Get a mentor.

Experienced colleagues can give you invaluable tips about how to navigate through your organisation's cultural paradigm. They will tell you what is accepted and what is not, they will guide you through the politics and help you select your best career development strategy.  They might also share their network with you.  By definition Mentors act out of selflessness and because they believe in you and your talents.  Always be honest and grateful for their support.

4) Develop yourself.

Don't ever think that you have nothing to learn. Improve on yourself constantly, take courses, read specialized work-related articles and books, widen your general knowledge (nobody is interested in a super-specialist who doesn't know who Dante was,  or who thinks that Africans speak African).

5) Stay authentic

Your only Unique Value Proposition is YOU.  So don't try to be anyone else.  People will see right through a fake.  You do, don't you?  Stay authentic, there is nothing more wonderful and precious than being yourself.  Your authenticity is your charisma.  

6) Say thank you

To anyone that helps you on the way.  We never do it alone.  Being grateful and giving credit is your way of giving back and consolidating a reputation of being the kind of person people want to have around them.

7)  Have a plan, but more importantly, have a purpose

Having a career plan is great, but you must discover what your life purpose is.  Why do you want to progress ?  If it's just for the money or the title, your happiness will be short-lived.   Understand what you want to contribute and who this will benefit.  When you have a deeper sense of purpose, you will find that your career unfolds before, with very little effort on your part and lots of joy in the process.

Do you love your job ?

Posted on January 25, 2014 at 6:55 PM Comments comments ()



How many people can claim they love their job?   Unfortunately not many.  According to Gallup’s research on the global workplace, a great majority of employees in the world experience low levels of fulfillment at work.   The Gallup report paints a rather dismal picture, especially given today's job market where so many people would love to have a job to start with.  Getting a job will certainly  meet the basic needs of financial security,  but there is no guarantee that it will lead to professional fulfilment.

Julie Ray, Gallup analyst and writer comments:

“The bulk of employees worldwide -- 63%-- are "not engaged"; they lack motivation and are less likely to invest in organizational goals or outcomes. Twenty-four percent are "actively disengaged"; they are unhappy, unproductive, and liable to spread negativity.”

- Article at

- Full Gallup "State of the Global Workplace: Employee Engagement Insights for Business Leaders Worldwide Report" available at

Employee engagement is obviously essential for organizations to be able to reach their business goals, but it is equally important for employees themselves to have a good quality of life at the workplace. After all, we spend a third of our life (and half of our waking life) at work. If this is not quality time, our health and emotional well-being will inevitably be negatively affected.

With 63% of employees who are not engaged, and 24% who are actively disengaged, that leaves only 13% who are engaged, committed and fulfilled that work.

What group do you belong to?

Some companies take employee engagement and well-being very seriously. They try to improve the situation by initiating major culture changes, introducing reward schemes, teambuilding activities and so on.  Employers must make every effort to create the conditions for employees to be fully engaged but it is a complex affair and not all companies succeed, and many don't even try.

But in the meantime what can the employees themselves do to improve their lot ?

As an individual organizational member you can be proactive and take a number of steps that will drastically improve the quality of your life at work.

Here are seven steps you can take to make  your job more fulfilling


1.  Decide to make each day at work a great day

Every working day, start the day with a strong intention of making it a great day for yourself. Start off on the right foot, with a deep desire to spend the next hours of your life in the most fruitful and satisfying way irrespective of circumstances. With this approach you will be more tuned-in to seeing the interesting opportunities and you will naturally gravitate more frequently towards pleasant people. It will help you to stay centered and positive even a difficult situation.


2.  Actively seek out interesting work, don’t wait for your boss to give it to you

Take initiative to get yourself out of the routine, beyond the boundaries of your “job description”, even if it means having to make a little effort, and even if it doesn’t lead immediately to a monetary advantage or a promotion.This will get you more involved in work that you find stimulating.

You can volunteer to help in a project that you like, take initiative to develop something new, attend open meetings or seminars to see what else is going on in the organization, make new contacts with colleagues you don’t know yet, find out what other people are working on. Gradually, you can take ownership of more interesting tasks.


3.  Let go of grudges and improve your relations with colleagues

Grudges are a drain on your mental and emotional energy. They keep you stuck in a rut of resentment. Most of the time the person  you are resentful against doesn’t even know about it, and anyway wouldn’t really care since they are going about their own business.

If you hang on to a grudge long enough it will poison you and turn you into a bitter person that nobody wants to talk to. There is absolutely nothing to gain in holding a grudge. By letting it go you clear out your mind and make space for more valuable things in your work life. You will create new partnerships and new doors can open up to you.


4.  Make a list of who benefits from your work and how it has an impact on their life

Consciously make the connection between what you are doing in your daily work and the ultimate impact of your company’s product or service on its clients. How does it affect their life? Are they more comfortable, healthier, more educated, safer, entertained ? Think of the results of the combined efforts of you and your colleagues, and the results produced for your client ? What is your personal contribution to this value chain ?

As you identify your role more clearly, you will feel more connected to the deeper sense of the work.

5.  Improve on your skills,  learn how to do things better, innovate on your working methods

Improving your own skills is a sure-fire way to boost your own self-esteem, up your performance and increase your visibility. As you take pleasure in performing really well, in being really good at something for the sake of it, you will gain in self-confidence. People would look at you for expert advice and for someone who is able to find innovative solutions.

6.  Focus on what you can do, avoid dwelling on what others should do

Make sure you spend more energy on taking action for yourself than on mulling over what other people should or should not be doing.  If you are waiting on others (the colleauges, the boss, the management, the system) to change in order to be more fulfilled at work, you might have to wait a long time.   Focus on what you can change and take action.

7. Monitor your progress and celebrate success

Regularly set goals for yourself and monitor your progress. One of your goals could be to create a warmer relation with your office mate, or learning a new skill, or getting a new project approved.   Setting goals, even small ones, will help you to committ to taking action.  

If you fail, just learn from it and start again.  If you succeed, make sure you take the initiative to celebrate !  There is nothing more deflating than a success that goes unnoticed.  So invite colleagues for a drink, or take your family out for dinner.  Celebrate, always celebrate each step forward !


By changing your attitude and taking these simple steps, you will be surprised at how easily you can increase your level of satisfaction at work.

Feeling good about yourself  in your current  work is just as  important  as finding ways to get a promotion and advancing your career.